That sounds like a really complicated situation, anon. I’m not sure what advice to give you here. Missing people is really, really hard. But its tough if bringing someone into your system is going to destabilize you mentally. Do you have any friends who also soulbond? Maybe one of them would be willing to pull this person into their group for you? My fiancee and I are synced up bondwise, and we often bring people through for one another.