Reminder that you can’t control who/what you’re kin of
If you’re kin of a bad person or someone who did bad things: that’s ok! Just acknowledge their wrongdoings and move on.
If you’re kin outside your race: Also ok! Just don’t speak over people of that group now and don’t claim to actually be that race.
If you’re kin outside your gender: 100% ok!
Its all fine! You didn’t choose who you’re kin of and what experiences you had as that person, no one has the right to say you’re wrong or bad for being kin of them. If they do attack you for something you have no control over then they don’t really understand what it means to be kin. They’re just as bad if not worse than the people who attack us for being kin in the first place.