Thank you!! That opened my eyes to a lot of things! He says his friends dislike me because I’ve hardly say with them and gotten to know them but I read in his friends group chat then screenshot ting and making fun of a post I shared on Facebook and he just said “they’re cunts to everyone who isn’t in the group” he just encourages me to sit with them more no matter how uncomfortable I say I am, he says the problem will get worse the more I avoid it. He sits with my friends a lot of the time. Idk

Hey there, anon. Your boyfriend sounds like he’s putting his friends behavior ahead of your comfort, which isn’t cool. If these kids “are cunts to everyone…

Kind of funny how I get two ‘dating/life advice’ type asks in a row! For future refrence even though its not really the ‘point’ of this blog,…

I’m not usually one to seek to people on the Internet for help but I’m so desperate and I really enjoy following your blog so I thought you might be able to help. I’m in high school and my bf has a different group of friends and I can’t push myself to speak up and talk to them or sit with them half the times story dislike it for me. Another boy in his friend group has a gf whom they all love and I really don’t know how to push myself to make them like me? Please help

Hi there, anon! 🙂 I’m sorry you’ve been having social trouble like this. Highschool is hard, because people are forced to socialize with one another…

(part 1) The otherkin community has interested me for a long time and I admit that in the beginning I did not understand it and had some less than nice thoughts about it simply because of that, but now I’ve read up on it, especially here on your blog, and I have found that I can relate? A lot? This is all very confusing to me, but I think several experiences I haven’t understood earlier might be signs that I’m fictionkin. I have identified with a character for a long time and I thought that

(Part 2) it was only to the level everyone gets, but after reading your posts I’m starting to see that might not be it. I…

im really confused and troubled lately because i think im kin with some characters but im genuinely not sure if my feelings are valid but fictionkin seems to “fit”, if that makes sense?? i feel a lot of kin things except memories. i see those canonical happenings as an outsider and i do not feel like i am present or part of them occurring. at the same time, theres a familiarity and longing that’s present?? im not sure what im feeling. it’s a strong feeling, but im not sure what it IS exactly?

There are two possibilities here. One is that you are kin with someone from that ‘canon’ who was never shown on screen. Basically a ‘background character’ or ‘extra’…

Hey, uhm…I’m just kinda trying to figure out what, exactly, I’m experiencing. I have had a particular connection with a certain character since I was about 12 years old. I don’t feel any spiritual or religious ties, or th I am her or her reincarnation. I am me, in control of my body, and I know that she isn’t a real, tangible person. She is in control of herself and largely/entirely independent of me, but it’s like she’s a guest in my head. I didn’t create her like a tulpa. She’s like a casual

–observer. I’m not sure how to catalogue this, and was just wondering what your take on it is. She’s a ‘villain’ who is largely hated…

i want to be a good friend to my fictionkin friends, but thinking about multiverses and things messes with my sense of reality to the point of nausea, so i just don’t talk to them about their kin stuff ever… :/ i’ve been trying to research it but i can’t do it for too long at once because i get so uncomfortable. can i still be a good friend if i say nothing?

You absolutely can. There is no need to make yourself uncomfortable in this matter. You’re clearly a good friend, and you’ve made an effort to…

I’ve started wondering lately if I’m kin- at first when I saw the character I was like, “that’s me- mannerisms, personality, I feel like I know exactly how they feel” and over the past couple months it’s evolved. When I see them I can’t help but identify with them on an emotional level and the “that’s me” feels like “that’s me, that’s me in maybe the right body or a different universe, not sure yet”. I feel silly getting protective sometimes because they feel like an extension of myself..?

That sounds like fictionkin to me. Congratulations on the beginning of yoru awakening. It will be a long journey, but one that will lead to…

Hi! I just found your blog and I really like it, and ts been super helpful for me. For the past two months I’ve been learning a lot about otherkin, specifically fictionkin and coming to terms with myself identifying as fictionkin. I’m 14 and have some super accepting friends who I feel like family with, but I have no clue how to go about telling them I’m fictionkin even though I want to and I’m ready to.. Any advice? Thank you for your time!

My advice, as it always is to this question, is that there is no need to share your identity as fictionkin with anyone who is…

I’m new with the whole concept of fictionkin. From what I’ve learned I feel like a friend of mine is fictionkin. Since he is so spiritually connected with certain characters to the point you wouldn’t be able to tell them apart. Is that fictionkin or something else? I’m not entirely sure. :/

From the outside, that certainly sounds like fictionkin. It could be something else though, like fiction-hearted, or soulbonding. I’d recommend telling your friend that you…

Someone close to me suggested I might possibly be fictionkin of someone very powerful and well-loved from a really famous fandom, and I can see why they said that but I also hate the idea. I don’t feel good enough, I’m nowhere near as great as he is. I feel like I don’t deserve it. Is there anything I can do to accept the idea long enough to explore it fully?

I’ve struggled with similar feelings. Honestly, I think the fact that you feel like you’re not ‘worthy’ is a good indication that it may be a…

Hello! I’m sorry for disturbing your askbox, but I have a question! I think I’m kin with this certain character, but I don’t really know if I am. I’ve actually gone through the EXACT same experiences they’ve dealt with and I noticed that we both have the same hobbies and dislikings. But maybe it’s just me overthinking. Am I kin with this character or do I just look up to them?

Only you can really answer that question for yourself. Having the same experiences in this life as a character does in a fiction can make…

I’m sort of new to being fictionkin, I just recently discovered that I was. I was sort of wondering if it was normal to miss people from that life? I’ve noticed that I’ve really been missing my sister. I don’t feel like I’d ever meet her in this life, at least, not of my own accord. She’d be way more likely to find me if she ever wanted too. Any way to deal with something like this?

It is absolutely normal, and understandable to miss people that you were close to in that life. Sadly, for some of us, the truth is…

Hello, I recently discovered that I might be fictionkin. I’ve always had a really deep connection with the character and thought of us as being super similar, but I didn’t really think I was kin until I thought of myself as him. Suddenly, I started feeling like I was kin and had a few memories but I also feel upset and embarrassed because it’s a show I genuinely enjoy. I don’t want to think I’m kin and have it turn out I just like the show and relate to the character a little too much.

My advice is to just take it slow and not rush into any beliefs. Take some time to explore your feelings and memories through deep…

So I think I might be fictionkin. There is a character I feel a close similarity to and people who know both him and me have actually commented that we’re alike. I feel at home in the canon world he’s from and I think I even feel the same for a different character… But the thing is, I don’t have what many fictionkin described, that they look at their fictype and think THIS IS ME, see? I don’t know what to think. Does that nean I can’t be fictionkin?

(Anon who doesn’t get the IT’S ME feeling) I also may possibly have memories of being this character? Difficult to say whether that’s just overactive…

(1/2) Hi! First off, I reallyreally love your blog a lot. You’re incredibly well articulated and have brought up topics that I’ve never even considered before. I had an inquiry myself, and you may possibly have answered something similar in the deep recesses of your blog, but… Gonna go for it anyway. I have a lot of discomfort surrounding my death and how the fandom depicts it. The common and widely excepted theory is that it was intentional suicide on my part, and I was doing it because

(2/2) I wanted to protect the others and give them a warning, and that I was so smart and chose to take my own way…

Since I was little I had this strong ‘I don’t belong in this world/I’m not supposed to be here’ type feeling. I found the canon I’m apart of when I was thirteen. Memories started coming back to me almost immediately and I cried almost everyday because of how painfully bittersweet it was to remember. I miss my world a lot. I miss my friends and I miss my lover. I went through a lot with them, we went through so much to be happy and now I’m not with them. (cont. in another ask)

( cont.) In my last life I was lonely in the beginning and then I met them and things got better. In this life…I don’t…

Hello! Recently, I discovered that I’m kin with a guy who was… Really bad. Like, bad enough that he murdered a lot of people and ruined a lot of lives. And recently, I also found a few people who identify as people I wronged horribly back then. I’m too scared to approach them as I don’t even know how to begin to ask for forgiveness (which is something I feel is necessary). Do you think they would hold it against me since I’m (literally) a different person now?

Hello, anon. I certainly understand how you feel as that describes my own ‘kintype’ to a T. Fortunately, or unfortunately, I haven’t had the luck…

Recently I’ve started to think that I may be fictionkin; I’ve never really ‘believed’ in fictionkin, but I recently watched the anime Haikyuu!! and one character, Kenma, just stood out to me so much. They were onscreen for less than a minute and I felt overwhelming emotion towards them, like I /was/ them. The fact that this was strong enough for me to accept possibly being fictionkin means its serious, but I’m still uncomfortable. Do you know any ways to make the journey to acceptance smoother?

The journey to accepting yourself as fictionkin, is, like any other journey of acceptance, long, and hard. I would say, longer and harder than many…

For about a year, I’ve been trying to figure out whether I am fictionkin of a character, or just too attached. I have a hard time believing in fictionkin, so that’s part of why I haven’t wanted to explore it more. Lately though, when I’ve seen pictures of places that remind me of Home, I’ve felt a longing so intense that it’s almost painful, and I don’t think I can deny it anymore. How do I come to terms with this?

Its hard. Its hard to believe that you’re fictionkin, and to come to terms with that. Its so much easier to just believe that you’re…

i think i might be fickin but ive never been kin before. i have a close friend who thinks fickin is completely ridiculous but shes helped me with a LOT and i dont want to lose her. i dont think she’ll necessarily drop me at the moment but sort of float away, you know? i dont wanna keep it in the dark, i wanna be able to express it…. what should i do? advice? D:

My advice to fictionkin, and otherkin in general is not to go around telling people about your identity ESPECIALLY before you are sure of yourself.…

im very distressed and confused and very scared. i think i might be fictionkin, but im not sure what i should do. im not sure if my feelings are valid. and my friend that i talk to all the time about everything is against fiction kin. im terrified because im scared they’ll leave if i tell them about this. im not even sure if i am fiction kin, my family hates it so i havent been able to open up to anyone. i would be more descriptive but i cant. is this normal?

Its normal. Kids, don’t tell your parents about being fictionkin, unless you’re really sure they’ll think its something neat. Most parents will either be dismissive…

Do you have any advice on dealing with the depression (and sometimes dysfunction) that can accompany no longer being in your former body? Being unable to cope with being out of place in one’s current life is one of those stereotypical things otherkin/fictionkin get brutally mocked for, and I feel like shit for even having this problem. I have no idea what to do. I’m pretty sure if I asked a therapist about this, they’d just laugh in my face or tell me I’m insane for my beliefs.

Its hard. Its really hard. I have self image problems rooted in my kin nature as well, which for me comes out as a sort…