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There are a lot more older ‘kin (fiction and ‘other, not to mention multiples too) than people on this site realize. Most of us have stopped putting ourselves out there so much because when you get to be 30+, being open is more dangerous than when you’re a kid. Many of us have obligations and people we need to protect (jobs, kids, etc.). Being open can harm reputations, even get children taken away. It’s not safe to have beliefs/lives that fall outside the status quo.

So true! Keeping a clean reputation is important which is one big reason my kin blogs do not get related/linked to my other blogs!

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On anon because no one knows I’m mentally ill. I wanted to thank you so much for the post where you talk about your experience being bipolar. I feel like we mentally ill fictonkin whose kin identities are completely separate from our illnesses are often forgotten or thrown under the bus, or our illnesses are used to discount and de-legitimize our kin-ness. Thank you again, it meant so much to hear.

Thank you for sharing, anon. ^^ Its hard to tell people that you’re mentally ill, and I did have a hard time sharing my struggle…

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Hi! I’m pretty new to being fickin, and I’m finding it kind of hard… Sometimes I feel a really big disconnect from my kintypes and I feel like I’m just ‘pretending’ a lot, especially since I have no memories of my canons or anything. Do you have any suggestions on how to help me really verify that I’m fictionkin with these characters, if only to set my mind at ease? Or maybe a way to unlock some memories, if there are any ways? Thank you in advance!

The best way to unlock memories is with self reflection and meditation. I recommend making some quiet time alone, to explore your feelings and your…

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Why do you take it as a personal attack when other people explain their being otherkin as psychological? Like, you realize a person can think it’s psychological for them without invalidating your belief that it is spiritual for you, right? Like, not everyone’s experience comes from the same origin. Just because one person thinks their experience is the result of neurodiversity, doesn’t mean that they’re telling you that your magical experiences are “all in your head.”

Like, not everyone’s experience comes from the same origin. That’s right. Not everyone’s experience is from the same origin. Which makes it (when the origins…

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Thank you for running this blog. I went from thinking something was wrong with me, to thinking I might be fickin, then finding out that soulbonding was a thing and that was what was happening with me. Thank you so much. I immensely appreciate what you’ve brought to tumblr with you, the knowledge and experience with these things.

No, thank you for sending me this message right now. I really needed it. Appreciate it <3 Soulbonding is such a wonderful and fascinating experience,…

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As someone with diagnosed (and currently untreated) psychotic depression (undiagnosed with almost certainly lot of other stuff, too, tbh), I agree with you. I’m a Pagan and spiritual kin so when people automatically assume I’m copingkin cuz of their over-abundance in the kin tags and because I’m open about my mental illness I feel like it delegitimatizes both oppressed groups I’m a part of (Pagan and having a mental illness). I wish they’d call themselves something else like copingfriend or smth

thank you. I’m sorry people make assumptions about your kin idenity, that’s not cool. I really appreciate you taking the time to send me a…

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so i latched on to this character that i did not choose, i identify with them very strongly. sometimes i want to be their friend, sometimes i feel like i want to be them but sometimes i catch myself feeling like i am them? but i don’t believe i am them. would you say i am fiction hearted with them, something else, nothing?

I would say from your ask, and from what it sounds like your experience has been, there is no way to know. Its okay to…

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Not sure if you got this question yet, but have you heard of the fictional other coping mechanism? I kno peeps who were “copingkin” and after reading your posts on the subject, realized that the concept of a fictional other was a better coping mech. It’s basically like..I guess an internal RP? A fictional character you take on as a “significant other”. You KNOW it isn’t real, but when you’re lonely or depressed you kind of dwell on that idealized relationship? Hard to describe. Helped me a lot.

Anon, I have a few thoughts on this subject, so I hope you’ll pardon me if I ramble a bit. My first reaction is that…

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What’s going on if there’s a different personality in my mind that I can talk to and that shares my memories, and he identifies with the name/pronouns of a fictional character, but the two of us are also kin for different fictional characters simultaneously? Do I have DID and am fictionkin, or am I just fictionkin for all three characters and I like talking to myself? I feel like a liar, even though I’m probably not…

This is definitely a question I can answer! Lets break this down! there’s a different personality in my mind that I can talk to and…

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im really confused and troubled lately because i think im kin with some characters but im genuinely not sure if my feelings are valid but fictionkin seems to “fit”, if that makes sense?? i feel a lot of kin things except memories. i see those canonical happenings as an outsider and i do not feel like i am present or part of them occurring. at the same time, theres a familiarity and longing that’s present?? im not sure what im feeling. it’s a strong feeling, but im not sure what it IS exactly?

There are two possibilities here. One is that you are kin with someone from that ‘canon’ who was never shown on screen. Basically a ‘background character’ or ‘extra’…

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Hello! For a long while now, almost longer than I can remember, I’ve always felt like there’s been something missing from me. As if I’m trying to find an answer to a question I haven’t even thought to ask yet. Recently I discovered the concept of fickin and something really clicked with me, but I haven’t discovered anyone I might be kin with. Is it possible I might be fickin but simply don’t know with who yet? I’m afraid I might just be reaching :/

It is absolutely possible that you’re fictionkin, but haven’t found your ‘source’ yet. You could also be Otherkin, which is like being ficionkin, but without a…

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Is it normal to not really miss your fictionkin past? I actually don’t miss my previous life at all. I find it interesting from a fictional/entertainment standpoint, but I wouldn’t choose to go back. Neither it nor the people I knew hold any real sentimental value to me. Anonymous because people would just call me a special snowflake or something, but it’s true. I’m not even sure why I awakened to a past life that held no emotional impact for me.

I can’t say whether your experience is ‘normal’ or not I would not say it was typical at all, but it is uniquely your experience. I…

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My question is are mental shifts a ‘kin thing or a system thing? I thought (from what I’ve read elsewhere) a mental shift is the same as what Tumblr refers to as “kin feels”-feeling extremely connected to your kintype’s mentality or memories for a short time. I also thought “fronting” was the system equivalent (although a lot stronger, like switching the driver in a carpool so to speak). Tumblr has messed up my understanding of terminology elsewhere and I wasn’t sure if it did here, too.

Ahhh, I see. Simple enough, In fact, you’re entirely correct. Shifting is an Otherkin term (specifically originating in the Therian / Were community I believe)…

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