From what I understand crawl-ins are when they come before or during birth? So they’ve been here the whole time but they still aren’t the original soul and are continuing a life from elsewhere. (like I was sent here as punishment by one of my world’s “Gods” because I pissed another God off, but no one had a chance to live in this body first because the body was born super premature and that soul didn’t survive)

Fascinating! I’m interested that I’ve never head of that one before, because it actually is a really useful word!

Do walk-ins and crawl-ins not exist? Like if someone says they were born somewhere else and ended up here like a headmate would but have replaced the original soul from the body? (Kinda like a changeling from fae lore?)

Assuming you mean in reaction to this: http://fromfiction.tumblr.com/post/140121020412/how-may-i-tell-i-am-a-fictive-if-i-turn-out-not Absolutely walk-ins exist (never heard of crawl ins? Whats the difference?). I say ‘almost no possibility’ when I really…

Wait, how do you shape your soul into a non-human one if you haven’t grown up that way? Also, you’re kin by reincarnation and I would like to speak to someone who is kin concurrently with their character because that’s my experience I think. Any advice? I feel like reincarnation vs. concurrent experience would be fundamentally different.

 Wait, how do you shape your soul into a non-human one if you haven’t grown up that way?  I have no idea, but I wouldn’t…

anon who sent the ask about soulbonding being different b/c fronting: If that’s the case, then what do you consider the difference between soulbonding and being multiple? Because to me this seems like a case of “well whichever word you want to use that one’s right!” with your definition and that really makes me uncomfortable.

Soulbonding and non-DID multiplicity in general have a lot of potential crossover. Here are the things that tend to make soulbonding ‘different’. All of these are…

In my experience through the soulbonding community – one of the major difference between soulbonds and headmates is the lack of ability to front or to front alone without the “host”. Just because you don’t have DID and/or have fictives doesn’t mean your multiplicity experience is automatically soulbonding.

This CAN be a decent indicator, but its not always the case. Soulbonding covers a much wider spectrum of communication than other multiplicty experiences generally…

Tumblr might have eaten my ask; if this is a repeat, just delete it. I was wondering how someone reconciles the belief that “fiction isn’t reality”/”dark topics are ok in fiction because it’s not real” with actually being kin? Because I have been holding this belief that dark things are ok in fiction for reasons like this, but I’m fictionkin and I don’t know what to think anymore.

Oof, anon, this is a tough subject. On the one hand, I personally have a lot of trouble watching/reading upsetting/dark fiction that doesn’t have a…

i hope this isn’t offensive but would it be okay if you tagged kin community drama like the post about hlaalus? i agree with what is being said but seeing several posts about it is stressing me out a lot. i know about you not being able to disengage from discussions like this and i don’t expect you to at all bc what’s being said is important, i just don’t have the mental capacity to handle seeing arguments and such. i’m sorry.

I can absolutely tag them from now on, anon! I’ll go back and tag the ones I recently reblogged. I’ll be using the tag #kindrama…

hello! i’ve checked your faq but i’m so new and v. confused, so i thought i’d just ask. i understand what the term headmate is used for in regards to this community, but i am confused if its supposed to be completely different from what a person with dissociative identity disorder means when talking about their headmates, or if they mean the same and meant for people w DID but alters that are similar to fic characters? sometimes some say anyone can develop headmates but thats not how DID works?

First of all, just to clear things up, headmates have nothing to do with fictionkin or otherkin. Headmate as a term came about to describe…

is it strange/bad that, even though i was a character in a past life, in my current state i feel a deep connection with his father? as in – although i was that person, if i had to pick one who’s me now, i would probably pick his dad. i don’t have memories or anything as his dad – i just relate to him.

I don’t think its bad? After all, if you’re this character, then his father is your father. Its not unusual to feel a deep connection…

A long time ago you touched on the topic of “fictional others” when an anon brought it up. What do you think of people who have multiple fictional others? I’ve found a friend who’s familiar with the concept and she has like, five. She IS polyamorous, but do you think that’s questionable? I’m not quite sure what I think yet. I’m still new to the concept, haha.

By fictional others, I gather that you mean romantic interactions with fictives/soulbonds/headmates. My personal feelings are that there is nothing wrong with having these relationships…

This is a stupid question probably, though I’m kind of new. With soulbonding, is it possible to accidentally become a soulbonder? I had this one RP character and every now and then I’d just start acting like her, and then I’d stop and not remember it. And there’s a drastic change in personality. I figured out kinda how to push it in the direction of happening, though it didn’t always work. And I left a note taped to my arm asking what was going on, and (1/3)

I got an answer scribbled in a different style of writing saying something about airships and crossing realms. And every now and then I feel…

What is the criteria for something being a soulbond? I have people that constantly follow me around and I can see, but no one else can. My friends who are soulbonds think I’m a soulbond, but I don’t think I am because everyone seems to be either in the headspace or right next to me in the weird projected form that only I can interact with. I don’t think there’s a word for whats going on with me. It is a confusing mess.

Firstly, you would be a soulbonder, and the people who follow you around would be called soulbonds. As for what the criteria is: A soulbond…

I am in a predicament and need an opinion. so i’m a soulbonder and recently tried tulpamancing and I made a tulpa. Fast-foreward some and I’m trying to call out to a soulbond of mine. The soulbond and tulpa are both there and then they? fuse? or something. I’m not sure. anyways, so they become one person and the tulpa/soulbond is in a situation where they act in a way that feels like simultaneous reincarnation, being both living the life of the soulbond in their world and being in my 1/2

2/2 headspace at the same time. It’s really weird and I want to make sure this isn’t something that just happens or that has a…