I don’t know how to identify my system. While on one hand I am not diagnosed with DID and OSDD, I can’t deny the existence of my bonds. I labeled myself as a bond system in order to stress that I was not DID, and I was attacked for it and told I wasn’t allowed to use the word system because I wasn’t DID, even though my bonds came about as a result of years of emotional and verbal ab*se. I don’t know what to do, and it seems I am caught between deny the existence of my bonds and throwing a fit…

Just ignore the people who try to deny you exist and that your experiences are real. A wise anon once told me this: Don’t fall…

Hello, recently I’ve reached out to some people who are also kin and they rejected me for having more than three kintypes and for questioning some of my own. I want to find accepting people in the community, but I’m not sure how. I’ve also been thinking of making a group, but I’m not sure how many people use the programs I want to use.

Any kin who won’t accept you for having three kintypes (that you’ve put thought into and can justify) are probably elitist snobs and you should…

I used to think I was possibly fictionkin from a certain universe because I had memories, but I couldn’t figure out which character. Now the memories are becoming more clear, and I realized what I remember is WATCHING that TV series in my past life. I remember sitting very close to the old CRT tv in a teeny apartment to see my show better. Have you heard of something like that happening? Is it weird that my only memory is watching TV of all things?

Yeah, I actually have really strong memories of watching the original run of Pokemon while in the Digimon universe. Strange, huh?

Can trauma carry over into this life? For example, in my canon I was a soldier in WWII, and all of this life, long before I knew I was kin, I’ve always felt really nervous and shaky around stuff to do with that era, like if I saw stuff about it at museums something. I have PTSD in this life so I know what being triggered is like, and it honestly feels like that?? But I wasn’t sure if this was possible.

Trauma can definitely carry over between lives. Its one of the major flags of being kin. Just make sure you don’t talk over survivors from…

I deeply wish I could find an otherkin/fictionkin forum or chat or something that was a little more… I dunno, serious? More interested in the theoretical or philosophical aspects of being kin? I’ve been visiting a kin chat recently and it’s just so completely braindead that I don’t think I’m going to stay. The overall quality of every kin community I find is so -low- that I’m beginning to get discouraged.

I know the feeling, anon. I would love to find that space, too. I feel like a lot of kin spaces start out like that…

Hey there! So I’ve heard a lot about kin and I’m respectfully neutral on the subject. But having found you, I’m actually quite curious about something. Have you ever met anyone who is also kin with Pearl/Vriska/Kaizer and how do you go about that? Do you believe you to be the only one, the true one, or can there be multiple? I mean no disrespect, I was just wondering about this possible dilemma. Anyways, keep being you~ no matter what no one deserves to tell you who you’re supposed to be.

Hi there. Thanks for being so respectful. You can read  a lot more about my beliefs and experiences on my webpage: http://fictionkin.net/ To answer your…

I had a thought the other day. I noticed a lot of canon calls will say something like “don’t message me if you’re x age” and while I understand that from a safety perspective (minors not feeling comfortable with adults and such) I can’t help but wonder, what if your canonmates were all in that age range you don’t want to interact with and you never got to meet them because of the age difference?

Then you’re basically shit out of luck, I would guess? Sounds sad to me.

Hi this is factkin anon! So I told my partner who my kintype is (Im still uncomfortable saying that) and the person I miss. I mentioned that my partner is my mirror system- well we also mirror each others kintypes. Idk if there’s a word for that but yeah, turns out theyre factkin too, and the person I was missing so much. They were just waiting for me to accept myself and tell them. Im just really happy and relieved and wanted to update you, if that’s okay! tysm for listening to me all the time!

I am so glad that worked out! When you said you had a mirror system I had a hunch it would.

i have traumatic kin memories involving war, but i feel bad for even mentioning i have them, especially since its from a war that also happened in this world. i feel like if i talk about how bad it was or how it hurts me, ill get shut down and told not to be disrespectful, which i understand but, that doesnt make the pain any better :/

Anon, I understand. That’s a tough position to be in. I think that you should be able to talk about and express these experiences and…

I don’t want to assert my experiences as more important than anyone else’s, but I have a confession… it sometimes bothers me how many people seem to be “having fun” with being kin, when being kin has been deeply intertwined with a lot of emotional/mental health problems for me. The flashbacks that lead to my awakening were traumatic, and came on as a result of unrelated trauma. I can’t even do anything relating to “my” canon without feeling a surge of anxiety shoot through my body. (cont)…

…(cont). I don’t understand why my experience has to be so negative when many other people appear to not be nearly as impacted by being…

part 1/2 Do you think its possible for hearted people to have..memories from their hearttype? It sounds weird but I have no other idea how to put it. I’m Peridot-hearted (I used to think I was kin, and this was back in that time) and I had a vision when I was handing a paper to my teacher. I had a vision of being the the spaceship as seen in Steven Universe. The hallways were a green-ish color, to my left was a window full of stars. I was in the form of a Peridot, I had holding staff

2/2 or something behind my back, I was going to bestow it upon someone. It lasted less than a second before I was escorted back…

Felix, I get really embarrassed about being kin. I’m otherkin and fictionkin and I always see people making fun of them and I feel really bad. I want to suppress how I feel but I know I’ve already tried to do that and it didn’t work. I just wish I could be more comfortable being kin. Do you have any advice for dealing with feeling ashamed of being kin?

Hey anon, I hear you. I feel the same way sometimes. Its hard to be treated as strange, annoying, stupid, etc, and all the things…