is it strange/bad that, even though i was a character in a past life, in my current state i feel a deep connection with his father? as in – although i was that person, if i had to pick one who’s me now, i would probably pick his dad. i don’t have memories or anything as his dad – i just relate to him.

I don’t think its bad? After all, if you’re this character, then his father is your father. Its not unusual to feel a deep connection…

In case it isn’t obvious @astralstar-fem is not a real otherkin. They are a troll/anti-kin/parody account. Posting this because anti-kin always seem confused by parody/fake…

I’m considering creating a spin-off new blog from this one, specifically a soulbonding ask/informational blog. Considering this because of the volume of soulbonding asks I’ve…

This is a stupid question probably, though I’m kind of new. With soulbonding, is it possible to accidentally become a soulbonder? I had this one RP character and every now and then I’d just start acting like her, and then I’d stop and not remember it. And there’s a drastic change in personality. I figured out kinda how to push it in the direction of happening, though it didn’t always work. And I left a note taped to my arm asking what was going on, and (1/3)

I got an answer scribbled in a different style of writing saying something about airships and crossing realms. And every now and then I feel…

What is the criteria for something being a soulbond? I have people that constantly follow me around and I can see, but no one else can. My friends who are soulbonds think I’m a soulbond, but I don’t think I am because everyone seems to be either in the headspace or right next to me in the weird projected form that only I can interact with. I don’t think there’s a word for whats going on with me. It is a confusing mess.

Firstly, you would be a soulbonder, and the people who follow you around would be called soulbonds. As for what the criteria is: A soulbond…

You probably get a lot of asks so I understand if you don’t get around to answer this one but first I’d like to tell you that I really love your blog! It’s informative and you’re always polite and yeah… and then I’d like to ask you for advice. There’s this game I know since I was a really small child and for all my life since I first saw it I felt like it was home, just even when I hadn’t played it myself yet I often found myself thinkin “I want to go back there, I want to meet them again” P.1

p.2 like… I just feel so strongly about the whole word and the characters/people in it, I still cry from the overwhelming feelings once I…

whats the definition for -hearted? some say it means choosing to identify as [x] but others use it like having a synpath where it means just a strong connection or relating to it. i think it would be more useful to have it mean choosing to id, since synpath works fine for the other definition

I agree with you, somewhat, but I’ll let others come forward and give their definitions of fiction-hearted vs synpath for you. I’m not the clearest…

Re: gender=/=kintypes, I realize this was directed largely at anti-kin, and so I don’t blame you for not mentioning it, but there are times when your kintypes can affect your gender. Especially if said kintype is a noncorporeal/alien one, or a fictotype with a gender different than yours. Just worth mentioning, no t that Im necessarily suggesting you add it to the post.

There absolutely are times when gender can be influenced by your kinself/kintypes. I would say part of the reason I’m a transman is probably my…

Hi um! I appreciate your kin ≠ gender post, but the line about gender being “visible at all times” really rubs me wrong. For example: a stranger would probably assume I’m a cis girl. I’m agender; it’s not visible. The statement just feels really exclusive of people who can’t (or don’t want to) present in a manner that ‘matches’ their gender. Am I misinterpreting it?? Thank you.

Sounds like I phrased it a little bit poorly! When I wrote ‘visible at all times’ what I meant was that people are evaluating and…

In case it isn’t obvious @smegmakin is not a real otherkin. They are a troll/anti-kin/parody account. Posting this because anti-kin always seem confused by parody/fake…

Hello, sorry if this is a bother, but could you talk about or direct me to anyone talking about “copinglink”? I think I understand what it means, but am not sure I quite get it. I did a Google search and a Tumblr search, but came up with 2 posts, which were both angry sounding posts and didn’t actually mention what copinglink was, just that it exists. :( I’m all for new terms to describe things, esp because “kin” has been twisted so much lately by others.

Copinglink is a very new term. I’m pretty sure it’s meant to replace copingkin? @inexplicablehanyou can probably explain better than I can.

In case it isn’t obvious @kiwi-chan-kin is not a real otherkin. They are a troll/anti-kin/parody account. Posting this because anti-kin always seem confused by parody/fake…

In case it isn’t obvious @captainbiscuitkin is not a real otherkin. They are a troll/anti-kin/parody account.  Posting this because anti-kin always seem confused by parody/fake…

The thing is, otherkin/fictionkin stuff keeps getting mixed up with mental health issues and sexuality, gender and identity politics, and it… really has nothing to…

Also I wanted to ask what your thoughts and opinions on psychological fictionkin are? What do you think are the similarities between metaphysical and psych kin? Do you think mental illness could affect this somehow? Sorry for sending two asks, but they are two different questions. UnU

Psychological kin are as legitimate as spiritual kin. They experience all the same phenomena as spiritual kin (memories, dysphoria, supernumerary phantom limbs, etc) but they…

This is probably gonna sound dumb, but is it a kin thing to get like really intense secondhand embarrassment from a character? I have a lot of strong feelings involving one character and I’m trying to analyze how I feel critically but have a hard time because of mental illness don’t know what normal thinking is like at all.

Secondhand embarrassment on behalf of your kinself is something that a lot of kin experience. My fiancee and I personally experience a lot of it.…

Hey! I really like your blog and I’ve been following for a while. I was wondering if you had any advice on soulbonding? I feel as though I’m ‘soulbonding’ with a few characters..but I’m doing it without trying? Do you think its possible to soulbond and not even know it? I feel as though Latios (the Pokemon) is with me. Is there a way to know if you truly are soulbonding these characters? Thank you and again, love your blog <3

It is absolutely possible to soulbond without knowing it, and in fact its very normal and natural for many people it occurs to. For me,…

Hey, I am host to a walk-in fictive and soulbond, and I have wondered lately how often the host should talk with their bonds? They tend to come and go whenever they want, but I started wondering if I’m supposed to talk to them regularly? I love them both but I tend to like being alone, and I don’t want to ignore them or anything.

There’s absolutely no ‘rule’ for this, its entirely up to what you and your bonds feel comfortable with. As long as you and they are…