Someone I know has been very traumatized by their close friend in another system because he committed suicide. Is there any way to somehow summon him into my headspace to become a system member, perhaps (via reincarnation)? It’s kind of a desperate situation :/
Ehhhh…. I’m possibly going to get in ‘trouble’ for answering this, anon, but I’m going to go ahead and do it because I have a lot of sympathy for you and your friends here.
In *my* belief system, yes, it is absolutely possible to summon this person into your headspace, and I will talk about how to do it in a minute.
But before I do, I want to talk about some mental/ethical considerations.
This is not something considered possible in the sense of medical DID/OSDD systems. Sharing alters is not a thing, medically speaking, and I am aware that at least some of the DID community considers the idea inherently abusive.
I am going to discuss sharing headmates ONLY in a spiritual/ magicakal/ supernatural context.
If you attempt to bring this headmate into your mind, I want you to promise, and I want your friend, and all involved to promise to me, to each other, and to yourselves that you WILL NOT under any circumstances talk about this headmate and their return to their original host/body/system. DON’T. DO NOT. If you even consider this, you are doing harm. This person left that system for a reason/the system lost this person for a reason and bringing up that they are alive in your head now is NOT going to do them any favors. It is borderline abusive. I do not condone it.
With that said
I, and other soulbonders I know personally, have been in situations where one of my bonds has been very attached to someone else’s bond, and then that person had to be removed from our lives for some reason. In this situation, it is sometimes possible for you, or another bonder, to being the lost bond into their headspace. In all of the contexts where I have been party to this personally, none of us were in any further contact with the original soulbonder, and the ‘theft’/ resurrection of their bond was NEVER mentioned to them. I stress that again.
If you have decided you are really going to try to bring this person into your headspace, anon follow my advice for summoning a soulbond. Do automatic writing/drawing exercises. Answer questions from another party ‘as’ the person you are trying to summon. Do meditative work. If you work on developing the connection, it is possible that you will be able to summon them into your headspace.
However, it is ALSO possible that they will not want/be able to come in. And if that is so, don’t try to force it, anon. If they don’t want to enter your headspace you will unfortunately just have to help your friend grieve. People leave us sometimes, its sad, but true.
What the frak. Anon, a million times no. Do not.
Even if it isn’t mentioned to the person and they never find out, which by the way doesn’t stop it from being creepy and ethically shaky as hell, this is still extremely messed up. A headmate who killed themselves is not someone you want to non-consensually recreate in another system. Bad freaking idea. Worst case scenario “someone you know” gets to deal with them dying all over again and that’s not exactly going to make them feel any better.
If “someone you know” introjects them as a result of the stress, c’est la vie. But do not seek to do this deliberately. Losing a friend is extremely painful. It will keep coming back and smacking you when you least expect it. But it does get easier, I promise. Denial and trying to “reincarnate” them is not a good way to deal with grief. Help your friend by doing what they can’t, be with them through the grieving process, support them through it. Don’t hold them back with this.
Good advice from BHB.
