I feel super pressured when reading certain fictionkin experiences such as nightmares, lots of memories, panic, etc. I feel like I have it “off easier” because kin for me isn’t as intense as I’ve seen others describe, but just feels real.

I’m happy for you that you don’t have a lot of painful memories and nostalgia, anon. Not everyone does, and that’s a good thing. Only you can decide if you are ‘really’ kin or not, at the end of the day. If if feels real to you, and you fit the definition of kin, its okay not to be angsty.